I just wanted to put some advice out there, as someone who has been through several miscarriages, and knowing several people who have fertility problems. If you have never been through it before, there is really no way you can understand what it is like to have to go through something like that. I didn't, until I've gone through it myself-miscarriage, and then fertility problems. We do have one child, we are so thankful. But if we do have another one, I will be careful around those who I know have been through tough times with trying to get pregnant/miscarriages because when you've been through it, every pregnancy/birth announcement, baby shower and everything like that is just a painful reminder of your condition. I know it is a happy time and when you find out you're pregnant you're so excited, I know-and you and your family and friends should be! And it's not that we're not happy for you, too. Just try to be sensitive to those around you who may be suffering because fertility problems and loosing a baby are most painful to have to deal with.

I know that one first hand and had to go to a babies r us to shop for a friends baby shower only a few months after I lost my child I was so depressed during the whole thing that I broke out into tears just looking at all the stuff. I'm pregnant with my fourth child right now and I'm hoping that this time I leave the hospital holding my son instead of crying into my fiancee's chest again.

Thank you for this post! I agree. I lost my baby 3 months ago, and it took me this long just to be able to get back on this site. I am still not comfortable reading posts about people who are recently pregnant or people who just had a baby, so I stay away from those posts. It's hard, it's so hard. I don't want to go through that ever again.

I'm sorry for your loss it will sting a bit when you get pregnant again and you have to go to the doc and answer all the questions. I almost started to ball because they asked me the outcome of my last pregnancies. I felt so stupid for it but the hurt never really goes away it just gets easier.

I can second that pain. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage, it was due to an extra chromosone from my egg. I was only 17 years old and had to get a DNC, what made it worse was when my boyfriend at the time actually started rejoicing when he heard that I lost the baby. I was so devistated that all I had to do was look at a pregnant woman or see a newborn baby I would start crying. My second pregnancy I was 20, and so terrified that I was going to miscarry again that I didn't go to the doctor until I was 11 weeks along, my boyfriend for that one wanted me to get an abortion, but I didn't, and I now have one handsome baby boy who doesn't know who his "sperm donar" is. And last year in July when I was 22 I got pregnant a third time, this one was an ectopic pregnancy and had to be aborted. I again was devistated, but didn't let it show around my son, because he needed me to be mommy. I looked at him as more of a blessing everyday since that moment, I mean he was a blessing to begin with, but now even more so. I just found out that I am pregnant again for the 4th time, and will be going to the doctor on the 19th for an ultrasound to make sure the baby is where it is supposed to be. I am hoping for the best, and if it weren't for the boyfriend I have now, I don't even know if I would be happy about it. But he is exstatic and has already told his whole family! It's the new father-to-be glow.

All in all I am sorry for anyone's loss, and hope for the best, and pray that everyone eventually gets to have a little miracle in their life, like I have been blessed with. And don't give up!