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Re:How young is too young? By leftAndGone 3 Years, 7 Months Ago 3littleangels4 wrote:
QUOTE: Although I planned to not reply to any topics anymore, I just feel my urge to say something here for this one. In my understanding, Natalia never says or implies that she doesn't want her babies. If she doesn't want or love her babies, she wouldn't bother to come on a baby and pregnancy forum. I believe she loves her twins as much as we all love our children. Many mothers encounter unplanned/unexpected pregnancies. I am one of them. We love our babies no matter when they come in our lives. Just that, if we could choose a better timing, we would rather be more prepared than surprised.
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Re:How young is too young? By youngmother18 3 Years, 7 Months Ago Ok, WOW! This has to be the most controversial thread ever. I am only 18 and I unexpectedly got pregnant. I am really lucky though. I have parents who will co-sign for my student loans, I'm doing my business degree online, and I have a VERY supportive family and boyfriend. Am I too young to have a baby? I really don't know. Some people would say yes and others would say no. Honestly, I try not to think about what people think about me having a baby at this age because it would just stress me out. And isn't stress something that people should avoid when they're pregnant. I agree with a lot of things that people have said on here. I don't think that being excited to have children eventually is a bad thing. I know I always got excited when I saw babies or baby stores. But I never planned on having kids at that point. My boyfriend and I were at the point where it didn't really matter to us one way or another if it happened or not. To me, how much love is in a relationship should determine if a couple is ready to have a baby or not. You can always get a better job. I mean you have 9 months to PLAN for a baby! You can do what I'm doing and do your degrees online if it's more convenient. There's always ways to improve yourself while you're raising kids. But one thing you can't really control is how much love there is in a relationship. Either you love the person you're with enough to create a miracle or not.
I can understand though that women who have been raped and became pregnant from it wouldn't feel this way and it would be unkind to make them see this. However, don't always get yourself down if you get pregnant by this vicious act. The way I see it is that the baby is still yours. Adoption is a great out though for people who don't feel emotionally up to it or who can't do it financially. I was adopted and for a long time, I resented it because I always felt that I wasn't good enough for my real mom to want me. Now that I'm having my own child, I look back and I realize how LUCKY I am to have been adopted by two people who love each other and have a beautiful home in a safe country. I would always want the best for my child and if I knew that for some reason I couldn't support this baby, I too would want he/she to have the best life possible. As far as how young is too young ... again, I don't really know. There are ALWAYS factors determining pregnancies and everyone's feelings and opinions are different. I think we need to respect everyone's way of thinking and what is right for one person isn't necessarily right for another. We definitely need to remember that and make the choices WE as INDIVIDUALS feel is right. We may not agree with someone's opinion or choice, but hey, they may not agree with yours right? It's just a site where we can share our feelings and see what other people think, not a site where we should JUDGE how other people think and feel.
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Re:How young is too young? By 3babys 3 Years, 7 Months Ago i just had a family memeber that is 17 and just had a baby a few days ago.she said that its hard on her but he boyfriend helps woth the baby. everyone is affaird that she is going to go throu a state of depression.i was 21 when i had my 1st child and i had to rasie her by myself. her daddy dont want anything to do with her and i dont get childs surpport..being so young with a baby takes alot out of you.i found out after haveing her everything was about the baby,i felt like my life was gone.. but haveing a baby wasnt all bad. there the best thing to see grow up and there much easy when they get older and more fun. i have 3 kids now 3girls my 10 day old, 1year old and 2year old.im marryed there dad, and he has also took on the role of a dad for my oldest one.i wish u the best of luck with 2babys at once. keep ur head high.
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Re:How young is too young? By bigmomma 3 Years, 7 Months Ago After reading through all theses entries it makes me sad at all of the judgements passed along onto others. This isn't what this forum is about. It is about supporting each other. Its fine to have opionions. Everyone has them but to use hurtful words and judgements against others is just wrong. S-U-P-P-O-R-T.
Please don't misconstrue my words in the following: A lot of the judgements being passed are by the younger members. NOT ALL! Some older members also. IMO what it boils down to is that Women-young and not so young have babies. Its what we do. some aren't that fortunate and face many struggles. You can't say that just because you are 17 and having children and being a good mom that all 17 y/o's are doing the same.. Just as someone who is 30 can't say that all women who are 30 are having children and being goood mothers. It doesn't work that way. Life is a path that leads to many different roads and all are different. You can't ask how young is too young because that is a judgement, intentional or unintentional it passes judgement.
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