I just wondered if there were any moms out there who have had babies with downsyndrome or other special needs. There's a very good chance right now that my baby will be born with downs and I was hoping for some advice. I'm waiting to see a specialist and have some genetic testing done... BUt I just wondered if anyone could speak from experience. It's alot of information to absorb...

Everyone says when Braelyn was younger he looked downs. But i wouldn't a doctor tell me?
Anyways i have a cousin who's about 4 right now with downs. He is one of the cutest little boys in the world. Um... My aunt and uncle had taught him sign language, because it's harder for him to talk, so that they could communicate with him... He's a bright child, there is this special school for mentally challanged kids where he lives, that he's attending. When he was a baby, he grew alot slower then most babies his age. He was like 13 months and still wearing clothes for a 9 month old. They had hired a specialist to help him out pretty much with alot of diffrent things, he'd always stick his tounge out when he was younger when they controlled, she got him where he would follow things.... But developmentally he was always a few months behind other babies... And not to scare you cause i don't know if this was just him or this is other downs babies too, but he was born with 3 holes in his heart, one closed up by it's self and he had to have surgrey to get the other two closed up. I hope i helped some... If you have any other questions you can ask me and i'll ask my aunt... I'm always talking to her anyways, she's the one i go to for most my parenting questions, she's a fantastic mother!

I don't have a family member with down syndrome, but my best friend's brother have down syndrome and I know him since his born. he is a very sweet kid he's 14 now. this kids are like the other "normal" kids they just need more time to learn things and talk, but then can do everything alone, they can dress them selfs, go to the bathroom alone, and do all this kind of things. my friend's brother even know how to cook and he cleans his room and the house, and he feeds the dogs and go out with them. his only problen it's the speak, he can't speak very well, you need to know him to understand what he's saying.
you need to know that it's some types of down syndrome, some kids are more affected than others.
they are kids that need special carryings and sometimes can be stressful for us watch them and control them, they are kids that have very strength and cause of that sometimes they are dificult to control, if you know what I mean.
if you need more information or something just ask, i know a little about this subject, I don't have much experience my self, but I know a little from works that made for school and for be with my friend's brother.

good luck at the doctor, all the best.

God I could so use a friend right now.
My mom is pushing me to have an abortion and try all over again. I don't know what to do. She keeps saying that there's a chance to end this now and go on and have a perfectly normal and healthy baby. One without Downs. It just doesn't seem fair.

If I was you I would wait for the results of the genetic testing (amniocentese) before making any decision. cause for me, abortion it's not fair for any baby normal or with this kind of problem.
kids with down syndrome can have a healthy and happy live. they just need a special help in their lives.
this kids/adults are very special, sometimes they can predict things before they actually happen, it's amazing. my friend's brother sometimes do that, he are on her house and then he goes "sis, mommy is calling" and then seconds latter the phone ring and it's their mom on the phone, and he even knows when his mom is coming home from work, it's very cute. sometimes they (down people) have bad moments but who doesn't.
but the final decision it's all yours, you need to know if you're ready to have a child with this kind of problems, cause it'll change your live forever, and if you have the support of your husband cause that's very important.

again if you need something or just talk to someone just ask or say something, I'll be glad to help you. PM me if you want.
all the best,

Tess

I wouldn't let your mother push you into anything...
It's your baby, your child, not hers. She's already had her kids. If you wanna get an abortion and try again, no one can tell you not to. it's your choice. But here is a starter, talk to you husband. See what he wants to do too.
Personally i never would, i couldn't bring myself to do it. If i wasn't a chef i would be working with downs children, i have the eductation to work with the preschool level kids, i know quite a bit of information, but not any personl information

Hey i also have a friend who's child is was born with down syndrome. I could give you her e-mail if you like. Just PM me and ask if you want it. She'd probably be alot more help then me!