Little Carter Jacob will be one month today in exactly 25 min lol. He is doing really well and fits into our family just prefectly these weeks have gone by pretty fast and im trying to savor every moment cus I know they dont stay this little very long! Big brother Justin is doing good he loves and adores his baby brother he loves giving him kisses and he is very protective of him! Now in saying that I think he is still adjusting and having a bit of a hard time in not being the center of attention and my main focus cus he had been the only child for three years. He has recently been having melt downs and stuff but I just think its the change plus there is alot going on now with several other changes and stuff and with his dad not being here cus he is a truck driver so right now he only has one parent trying to split up the time between the two kids but I know this is normal and that it should get better soon. My husband gets his home time this week and will be home for ten days so im looking forward to him being home and helping me parent and when he is here it will be easier to split up my time to give each of the kids attention as I will have help. And if anyone has any tips to make this change easier on justin that will be great as I really cant stand the melt downs and the not listening lately

Something that might help is doing a 'day with dad/mom' thing. On one of the days your husband is home he spends pretty much all day with Justin doing what he wants. This will give him his 'center of attention' time. It will also give you the day to spend with Carter, taking care of him and things you wouldn't normally get to take care of because of your 3-year-old. You could also do the reverse, with you taking Justin out for a day and your husband chilling at home with the baby, getting things done and such. Some days you could probably find a babysitter for the whole day/afternoon for Carter if your husband isn't home.

It's already been a month?! That went by fast! I'm sure you think so too lol. I'm really glad you're doing good. I know you'll be happy when hubby gets home. I'm sure it's really hard with him being gone, but I think you're doing an amazing job Keep up the good work girl!

Celianne had a good suggestion.

Congratulations! That is such exciting news!

Celianne wrote exactly what I was going to say. Justin is just craving attention and wants to know that he's still loved and important. Don't give into "spoiling" to make up for Justin feeling a little out of sorts. Think about how having a newborn has changed your life...at least we (as adults) can comprehend those changes. It's tough for the little ones, but it is normal and the fact that you're aware of this is a HUGE step in the right direction for your family. Definitely set aside some Justin time to make him feel special. While it might not always be conducive to leave the baby home while you take Justin out...you can have a special time at your house while the baby is napping. Play Justin's favorite game or watch his favorite movie and snack on popcorn. Try to incorporate Justin into as much of your day as you can. Ask him to help you with feedings or changing the baby: he can get the burp cloth or the diapers. He could help hold the bottle (if you are bottle feeding). There's a number of ways to make him feel like he is needed in this process for you.

Best of luck to you. It sounds like you're adjusting well to the new changes in your life. Keep up the good work. Congratulations again!

Thanks guys and mandi you put tears in my eyes yes im still very emotional and hormonal lol. And yes it was fast so mandi cherish every second of it. My hubby has promised to help me with the kids when he gets home cus he knows its hard for just one parent with a newborn who is breastfeeding to divide the attention equally. We had already discussed my husband taking a special day with justin so justin can get the attention he deserves especially from his dad then vise versa but that will have to be at home cus im breastfeeding I cant be too far away from Carter. I do offer Justin to help and most of the time he will but I think I can ask him for more things and involve even more. I really think alot of this is because my husband his dad Isnt home and that he just really needs his dad as so do I lol. I do think sometimes moms needs a break too lol. Oh and another question he is starting to have accidents like peeing in his pants and stuff its like now he wont even say when he has to go like he used to like last night we had a play date and he just sat there and peed. Like there are times when he doesnt have a problem especially when we are out but times when he does have a problem with going to the bathroom. You know I have heard of all these stories of children doing all of these things that Justin is when a sibling is born but didnt accure that Justin was going to go through it. But I do think its harder with not having my husband home and all the other changes we are having with moving and stuff. I do have hope that when hubby is home things will get a little better.

As far as Justin having the accidents it's probably a way, in his eyes, to get attention. He sees that Carter gets to pee in his diaper and then he gets changed A.K.A. attention. So, maybe Justin is thinking that if he has an accident then he'll get that same attention. My mom has told me that I was fully potty trained when my brother was born and then I started having accidents like that too and it was because I wanted the same attention. What she said she did was when I was watching her change my brother's diapers she would brag on me and tell me what I big girl I was and how I didn't need diapers anymore like my baby brother did and how I was going to have to help her potty train him one day since I was the big sister and my baby brother needed me to show him things. She said that worked for me and it sounds like a good tactic. Maybe something like that might work for Justin. I wish you the best of luck!