My birthday was 4 days ago, I turned 30. It's really weird. I joined this site when I was 28 and my husband was 30. That seems like forever ago. I'm kind of freaking out. I don't feel that old but it's like in a short 12 years life has changed SO much. I have 7 kids and one of them is 12, it really freaks me out, I vividly remember being 12.
A lot has happened. My kids are thankfully all pretty good but a lot has changed my husband moved out like 2 months ago, we realized we really changed as people, we grew so far apart it really frightened me. The stress of having 7 kids, one of whom has an extreme medical condition created this separation. My husband's job permits him to act 21 all the time and that's basically the opposite of my life. His view on our children was so much different than mine. He saw little projects that he could ignore and come back to work on (like his job) and I see my amazing, beautiful children, a brood of great children that I constantly need and that constantly need me.
So, he moved out, he said it wasn't fair for the kids for us to be in that state we were in and he just left. He was holding our 4 year old and like $200 for groceries for the week in his hand and he handed me Tracy and the money and left. My kids cried for 4 days straight, I didn't tell them dad had left really but kids are just so intuitive they just knew.
I don't know why I'm telling you all this...
Anyway we can fast forward 2 weeks and my husband got involved with some legal issues and then that night my son Elijah started weezing. Its the worst sound, I can like hear the mucus being clogged. It sounds like those horrible asthma coughs that sound like youre coughing up rocks but amplified. I called his doctor and he said to monitor him and if I get any uncomfortable feeling anything call 911. Well unfortunately I had that feeling and within moments, it literally felt like 2 seconds I was screaming at my husband's voicemail to pick the kids up and holding my son trying to move around his breathing tube so I could see if I could suction any of his mucus out. My husband never answered and I had to leave the kids at my neighbor's house. Later I learned about his certain troubles. It was a rough 3 weeks. There's a lot details I'm leaving out.
I'm getting really personal, I really hope I never dropped my last name here.
Well, I'm to sad to say we're not living together at the moment but we both agreed to do more intensive counseling, he comes over every night for dinner and on my birthday we went out for a light lunch. It was nice. I'm intending on our relationship re-forming but I know it will be different. We were really young and not prepared by the time I was second semester sophomore in college I had 2 babies. We bought a house when we were in our mid/early 20's It blows my mind, we did so much so quickly. I know we are different people, I'm kind of okay with it. His life has only gotten more glamorous since we've been married he went from being a friggin' music teacher to his dream job working in the music industry. I could never imagine my life without my amazing kids but oh my gosh its like I got a college degree too and did the same things he did but our lives are so different.
I'll probably delete this post, it all too personal. Ahh

Hi Happy belated birthday!

I am so sorry for what your family is going through, and I really hope that you and your husband can work things out(which ever way that may be) I've always said to my parents when they got divorced that I rather they be happy and apart then unhappy and together.

Also I definitely understand if you deleted this, all the best to you and your family!

Happy Birthday, Nellie! Yeah, life gets really wild at times. Try to hang in there. I hope you two can make it work and he will come around and see what he needs to do. I really hope Elijah is going to be okay. Sweet little thing. Yes, kids are very intuitive. Best wishes to you all!