genevra wrote:

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You are 15, she is 14. My advise to you, be careful man, you could get arrested for Statutory rape, if you choose to mess. Remember the case of the football player, who was 17, and had sex with a 15 year old - consensual by the way. But her daddy did not like it, and had him arrested. Well, he is in JAIL man.

You are still children, and children do not need to deal with adult situations. Man, marriage is an adult situation. Go to the gym, and work out, enjoy adolescence, be friends with girls, treat them with respect. You don't have to marry every girl who is nice to you. C'mon.

I have 3 sons man, and this is what I would have said to them, if this problem had come up. They were on the Rugby, football, volleyball teams. One took up drama, music, and was on the Honor Roll. One works on the Ski Slopes, is going to Australia in Sept. The other worked at a wilderness camp with young people, being a role model, and guide. Man, there is so much out there for you to experience, go and find it. Find yourself, and when you are 25 - think of marriage. Trust me on this.

Genevra[/color]

She will be 15 on the first, and I am still a virgin, so is she, we ARE going to wait until after high school to get married, and until after we are married to have sex.

And also, I don't want to marry every girl that is nice to me, I want to marry her because I love her... And before you say I don't know what love is, I actually do know what it is, most people think I lust for her, but that is not true, I am on the phone with her a;; the time, when I'm not, I cry, and write letters to her, and think about her. Yes I am an emotional guy, but still. I do love her, and I classified this under parenting, because we do want to have sex, and do want to have kids, but we ARE going to wait. I want to at least have two years of college under my belt before I have kids, because I want to be able to support them.

Sorry if I seem ticked off, I have a lot of issues with my parents right now, and I'm letting my emotions get the better of me...

Thanks for all your replies though.

Hey, its just me again. Just coming around to see how you're doing.

Hope I didn't shake you up to much dude, its just, someone needs to take you by your shoulders, and look you right in the eye, and tell you how it is. Man, you need to get something going in your life, not sitting on the phone, texting all day long.

Your parents must be pissed, having to pay for the phone bills. Hey, you sound like such a nice kid, and I'm not trying to just kind of challenge you about your choices. You should be your first choice. You know, girls will come and go in your life. You are only 15 - you have at least 65 more years ahead of you. Don't just shut yourself off to the world, and focus on just this one chick.

Think about you, and what you want to become. Without a girl. Man, you need to grow to be a strong pillar of strength, carry yourself with distinction, finish highschool, get your drivers, get your first car, job, etc. There is so much for you to focus on, and sitting there texting this chick, you are not living your life to the fullest at your age.

Embrace your age, where you are in life, be 15 - you only get one chance at living at 15 - I taught my 3 sons to think of girls as if they were butterflys - they are beautiful to look at, you handle them gently, you put out your hand to them, if they land on your hand, don't crush them, take care of them, they will want to stretch their wings and keep on flying. Maybe it'll come back to you, rest with you, but you can't use a net, and swipe at it, crushing its beautiful wings, it will never fly again. It was made to fly. Girls are made to soar as well. Do you get what I'm saying here, man?

She's okay where she is, she's safe, beautiful, but maybe leave her to develop her wings first. You focus on school, being friends, growing intellectually, distinctively, take new courses, search out opportunities - grow. K.

See, now I feel like I'm putting my arms around you, and giving you a hug. Its okay to cry. You are becoming the best that you can become, but for now you are 15. Join the volleyball team at school. Raquetball. There, see. You will be ok, and so will she. Later. Leave her till later.

Genevra

maybe a promise ring instead? Promise that you will be faithful only to her. Especially if she lives so far away. You don't have to promise to marry her, you have to finish school first!

genevra wrote:

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Hey, its just me again. Just coming around to see how you're doing.

Hope I didn't shake you up to much dude, its just, someone needs to take you by your shoulders, and look you right in the eye, and tell you how it is. Man, you need to get something going in your life, not sitting on the phone, texting all day long.

Your parents must be pissed, having to pay for the phone bills. Hey, you sound like such a nice kid, and I'm not trying to just kind of challenge you about your choices. You should be your first choice. You know, girls will come and go in your life. You are only 15 - you have at least 65 more years ahead of you. Don't just shut yourself off to the world, and focus on just this one chick.

Think about you, and what you want to become. Without a girl. Man, you need to grow to be a strong pillar of strength, carry yourself with distinction, finish highschool, get your drivers, get your first car, job, etc. There is so much for you to focus on, and sitting there texting this chick, you are not living your life to the fullest at your age.

Embrace your age, where you are in life, be 15 - you only get one chance at living at 15 - I taught my 3 sons to think of girls as if they were butterflys - they are beautiful to look at, you handle them gently, you put out your hand to them, if they land on your hand, don't crush them, take care of them, they will want to stretch their wings and keep on flying. Maybe it'll come back to you, rest with you, but you can't use a net, and swipe at it, crushing its beautiful wings, it will never fly again. It was made to fly. Girls are made to soar as well. Do you get what I'm saying here, man?

She's okay where she is, she's safe, beautiful, but maybe leave her to develop her wings first. You focus on school, being friends, growing intellectually, distinctively, take new courses, search out opportunities - grow. K.

See, now I feel like I'm putting my arms around you, and giving you a hug. Its okay to cry. You are becoming the best that you can become, but for now you are 15. Join the volleyball team at school. Raquetball. There, see. You will be ok, and so will she. Later. Leave her till later.

Genevra

I do understand what you are getting at, also I'm getting my first car in a few months, and I will be 16 in January, And actually I'm on my grandparent's cell phone plan, we get unlimited texting, free nights and week ends, and on our home phone it's a set amount of money for each month, even long distance as long as it's in North America...

Also, I may not look like it, but I'm in marching band xDDD Most people think I would play USA football ya know like rugby in a way, which I did before, but I didn't like it... I do realize what you are saying though, and yes I'm keeping her close, but she is staying close on her own...

Also, I have been trying to get the money for a promise ring, but I'm still having troubles getting a job....

I was engaged at 16 years old and it put a lot of stress on me engagement is a really big deal my boyfriend and I broke off the engagment and were still together i REALIZE NOW THAT its too young it's a time to enjoy living because although it seems like just a ring that ring has alot of bagage if i were you i would wait a couple of years.