Last night me and my husband where talking about the new baby and discussing finacial and physical problems that may arise during the pregnancy and further on and then we got onto the subject of the future:

We already have 3 boys and another baby on the way, i have always wanted 3 boys and 2 girls = 5 children. But my husband always wanted 5 boys and 2 girls = 7 children.

I no you can't choose the gender of your children but that is what we had wanted while we were younger but my thoughts have changed but his hasn't he wants 7+ children and he understands everything which comes with it, we are financally stable and can afford that many children but only if he still has the job he has now or gets promoted or has another job with the same money basically.

We have a 4yr old an 2yr old and a 6(nearly 7)month old baby and so our baby would be born around May 16th(not yet confirmed). We thought that if we do have more children there would be more of an age gap.

E.g. 10-8-6-4-2-1-and so on and i have always wanted a small age gap between my children, my husband is'nt really bothered.
But i am a very worried about what people will say my brother has a 7yr-4yr-1yr and my sister 7yr-4yr and my other type sister which i do not mention alot has a 6yr old and they're ages range from 31-24.

I have always wanted a big family and so has my husband but since things are moving on and our family is growing it is worrying me, my children have all had they're time to be babies and i always treat them the age they are.(i do not want people thinking that i want them to grow up and be someone they are not so i let them do things in they're own time.)

What do you think of age gaps?
What would be your ideal age gaps?
What do you think of having a big family?
Do you have a big age gap?
What's you thought's on this?


Stacey.x

I would really appreciate anything anyone has to say

What do you think of age gaps?

I don't really thing they matter to much. My bother and I are 6 years apart and didn't really like each other until adulthood. My friend and her sister are 6 years apart and are very close. My mother and my uncle where 19 years apart and were very close.

What would be your ideal age gaps?

We had originally planed a a four year age gap, but we are now debating on a three year gap. We are not debating because of the gap between the children, just about whether we are ready or not.

What do you think of having a big family?

If you want a big family go for it. Personally I don't think I could handle it.

Do you have a big age gap?

Refer to first question answer.

What's you thought's on this?

Refer to first question answer.

Good luck with your decision.

me and BF want a different amount of children. He wants 2 I want 4. I want my first 2 to b somewhat close together. like 2 years apart. If I have another "batch" lol, they probably will have a gap between the first two but be close in age. for example. 8-6-2-1. I chose this for a few reasons. I am the youngest, by 10 years...i was pretty much an only child because my siblings were full grown when i was very young. I want my children to be close to each other and always have a play mate. I want to wait 4 years between sets because I dont want to spend my whole life pregnant lol. I also want to be able to spend quality time with my kids and not be overwhelmed. My first 2 will be somewhat independent when i decide to concieve again. Thats my plans!

I didn't really follow your post...but I'll answer your questions

What do you think of age gaps?- I think they are great, from personal experience. My little brother and sister were born when I was 13 years old. So I was and still am a 2nd mother to them. -BUT- I also think it's very important that children have siblings close to their own age. I would feel really bad for them if they didn't have each other and another sister who are closer in age. I think it's important so they have someone to play with when they are young, and someone to relate to when they are older.

What would be your ideal age gaps?- I want multiples. If that's not in God's plan, then probably 2-3 years.

What do you think of having a big family?- Not for me. My mom has 5 children, and I think she is stretched too thin among all of them, plus my dad, plus her household chores, plus work, etc etc. I want 2-3 children, so I can give them each a lot of attention. 3 is even probably pushing it for me.

I also think more people who want large families should consider adoption.

Do you have a big age gap?- Already shared, yes, 13 years between me and my youngest brother and sister.

What's you thought's on this?- I love it! I love being able to be a sister to them, but still kind of have authority over them. (Mom isn't doing the best of job...so I feel like I kind of have to step in sometimes. I NEVER over-ride what she says, but I do take a big role in raising them).

Hope that helps.

with my family my older sister was i think 3 nearly 4 when my mother had me and my twin, she then had my younger sister when we were i think 2 going on 3....i just had twins so i thik i would want to wait at least 3 years before trying again as i do not want to have to be worried about where my toddlers are while being pregnant, however if it happens it happens... i think with the age gaps between me and my sisters it was great me and my twin were able to turn to our older sister if we ever needed someone older to turn to, but as she was nearly 4 years older she was very much independant by the time we were in primary and high school so it was better for us twins as we had each other and became very close...for our younger sister it was good as it meant there was someone for us too look after and by then the eldest child was 9 so she could help mum if she needed it..i think the age gaps worked well in our family but each in there own.

for example i am a physio so i quite often get talking to my patients, i was talking to one of my patients who is 17 and doing the hsc, she has an older sister who is 19 and her father and his 30 year old gf said they are thinking about trying for a baby within the next few years, this means that they would be at least 18 and 20 years older than their younger sibling, i find this would be hard for the older girls having a baby/toddler around the house when they would want friends over etc

I have two boys, they are 14 months apart,i think that havein a small age gap is better, especialy if you want lots of children,it takes 9 months to get a baby,if you want 7+ you would have to start havein them right after each other, one a year.I want my kids to be close in age,we are trying for our third next year so there will be about 2 years between the the new baby and my youngest son.