The future has been plauging my thoughts lately. Today at the hospital I saw a woman with a todler and she had her second, a little premie so the baby was in the NICU and today he was leaving.
I know I would eventually like to expand my family but it looks so hard, I can't even imagine having one two year old and than a little baby none the less two. I mean I saw this lady who was with her little one and the baby. The todler was kicking and screaming and she had the newborn in the snuggly and she's trying to calm the todler down and than the todler starts to cry and than the baby cries. I mean how do people do it. I haven't really played a huge mom role in my girls' life so I'm nervous how I'll handle them at home alone, I tried Ella for a few hours and it was a lot of work.

I do want to eventually have more children, I really do but how could I ever do it?
Ryan was talking about how much he loves fatherhood and how at the shop ne brain storms baby names when he's bored. But wow I mean he doesn't even visit the girls at the NICU.
Also let's say I have another baby when the girls are three, it'd be insane. Three year olds arent completlty potty trained yet..are they? Diapers are expensive, a nursery is expensive, being pregnant is expensive and very draining. Three year olds have to go to school, I mean how could I have the energy to have a huge belly, and take kids in and out of car seats.
Oh and lets say Ella has asthma and always has to use a nebulizer or an inhaler. What if Ella needs to use her nebulizer but the baby needs a diaper or a feeding?
What if I go into premie labor with another baby how could a I balance NICU visits and two three year olds????
Or what if I'm on bedrest to a lot of pregnancy, wouldn't my girls get bored?

Or what if I have another set of twins????
Ryan has that in his family, it's called Reacurring twins and it's rare but it's very common in Ryan's family.

Advise please and thank you.

hi natalia im sure you would be fine you just have to try not to stress about it my mum had a toddler when she had me and my twin sister, when we were about 6 months old my sister had a seisure and the doctors told my mum that if my sister needed her attention due to having another one etc, that she should put us twins down and even if we cry we will be fine because she can hear us while she is dealing with my older sister's problem.....im sure if ella did have asthma and needed those things it would be similar you put the baby down in a safe place where you know they will be fine and deal with ella whether it being giving her an inhaler etc, the baby would be fine and it wont hurt them to wait a few minutes.

if i were you i would try not to stress as you will only run your self down and therefore will have less energy for ella and shea...all the best and let me know if you need anything whether it be a chat or just a little advice

Hi. I have four kids. Joshua is 6, Natasha is 5, Hayden is 3 and Brianna is 1 month. On the weekends we have my 11 year old stepson. It's hard at times, but I wouldnt change anything. It gets easier as you go. It was hard at first when I brought the new baby home. It did get easier once everyone got into the new routine. My older kids love to help with the baby. sometimes it can be overwelming, but it has been getting easier.

My first 3 kids were all within 2 years of each other. It was hard, but so much fun and they are incredibly close now. Its weird but when it has to be done, you just do it. Late you look back and go wow how did I manage

Natalia all i can tell u is to take a breath girl... u r fretting over many many things that u have no control over,
if and when u decide to have more babies u will know if u can cope, like u sed u havent been able to be "mum" to ur girls just yet so of course the thought of toddlers + babies scares u, dont even think that far ahead yet...
at this stage u just need to focus on the here and now....
if u need to talk pls feel free to PM me, as i have been in ur situation and can understand ur fears..

hugs
Seaason

yeah I really do need to calm down.

By the way Daniela how are your babies doing?