so im 20 and i found out about 2 weeks ago that im approx. 7 weeks pregnant. my boyfriend and i have been dating about 6 months. we had been talking about getting married before we found out but i dont want him to marry me just because im pregnant. he's upset about it, doesnt want me to have it at all and if i do have it then he wants me to put it up for adoption. he is actively looking for ways for me to have a miscarriage and he says that he wants me to do everything the doctor told me not to do and if the baby still makes it after that then ok. he says that me having it he would pay child support and thats it. when i found out, we had been fighting alot so he now thinks that i got pregnant on purpose and i "pulled the pregnancy card". those were his exact words. some days our relationship is great and i love being around him but there are other days when its not. he's pissed at me, resents me and i feel like he hates me. i did not do this on purpose but im not going to go and kill my baby. and i was adopted so i know what its like to think my mom didnt want me. i would never put my baby through that. i love my boyfriend and i want us to still be together after i have this baby. i want him to be a part of the babys life as more than just a check. but i feel like i deserve more than this. i deserve a guy that will love me and this baby. so im stuck. he says that we're working through our problems and that we're still together. im stuck. any advice?

So many persons praying, struggling and hoping to get pregnant and others who just feel like the world is coming to an end when they find the big news, the world is such a complicated thing.
Anyways, i think your behaving very well, and you are handling the situation, maybe your boyfriend was in shock either way he really was a jerk, no offense but i have to be honest.
You didn't make the baby on your own you needed his help so he is responsible too!
IMO you should wait a few more days but do what the doctor said in order to deliver a healthy baby and for your own health, and if your boyfriend doesn't change his attitude just tell hum to f*ck off!
I know you like him and it's hard but let's be honest he is acting like a jerk and you don't deserve that, and the baby, specially the baby, it doesn't deserve that!
That's all i can say, Good luck.

I agree with Emily.

My brother in law did the SAME EXACT thing to his girlfriend when she found out they were pregnant. He was so mean to her through the whole pregnancy and begged for her to put the baby up for adoption the whole 9 months. He didn't go to any Dr. appointments and didn't take her to the hospital when they were home alone and she went into labor. When he finally showed at the hospital he was still saying he wanted the baby to go up for adoption. When he finally saw his baby, he fell in love with him. Their son is 18 months old now, and he is an amazing father.

I just wanted you to know you are not alone in the situation. & there is hope. Hopefully your boyfriend will change his mind much sooner than my brother in law did!! Just be strong for your baby and do what the Dr. says. Im sure you know but if you do the things the Dr. told you not to do (like your bf says) it doesn't necessarily mean you will def have a miscarraige, the baby could survive it all but still have health issues. So stay healthy and keep your spirits up. Good Luck. Keep us updated.

That's true. I've heard that a man becomes a father when he sees his baby.

thanks. that helped calm my nerves a little bit, until i saw some text messages on my b/f phone from this girl from his hometown calling him babe and when she asked if they were together he replied yes. the girl then went on to send all these graphic texts saying what she'd like to do to him if he was there. i dont know what to do. i dont know if i should confront him about it or just break up with him and that be the end. he's convinced that i would rather be with one of my platonic male friends but i wouldnt. is that just his way of convincing himself so the guilt is horrible for him? i just feel like screaming or crying or ripping things. plus the pregnancy hormones arent helping me one bit. lol im worried that if i just end things then he won't come around and my child won't have its real father in it's life. any advice?