honestly this is all beyond a joke!
NOONE called one "teenage mother" in particular bad.
they were just clearly pointing out how HARDit is to raise a child/baby when you still are a baby.
I am 21 and have a 6week old son, i have been with my partner for just over 2 years. now my partner is 24 owns his own concreting business, and i/was studying a degree in nutrition. i did NOT plan this pregnancy by all means.
i may be wrong but i think alot of younger parents and even some older parents struggle with money, stress and time.

the girls that sit on here and think everyone is bullying them because there teen mothers i think that is just plain and simple your guilty conscience! if you hadnt bothered to read majority of women giving the replies are or were teenage parents!
Dezzymae you sit on here telling girls that they should get pregnant when the "feel" ready.
now you tell me when you fell pregnant did you prepare yourself/enjoy the late night feeds followd by early morning wake ups! did you prepare yourself for the hidden extra costs your baby was costing you inc doctors visits, medications and the list goes on!

you CANNOT sit here and expect all of us to believe that you were 15 and did not struggle.
no matter how old parents are, they need information, support and advice and need to be wise enough to learn from others!

dezzymae if you were "real" i dont think you would be posting telling girls to go out get knocked up cuz its the best thing at 13,14,15! i think you would be one of the majority sitting here explaining and giving your story to help younger girls realise how hard it is raising a child, helping them realise it isnt all about just choosing a name, buying it cute clothes, brushing its hair, taking it out shopping! think about it really, instead tell girls to go out there and enjoy life travel, study, work whatever.

I can fly a kite in an electrical storm, doesn't mean that it is the best time to do it.

Amy I have no idea why you had to dig this post back up, but maybe you should go back and read THE WHOLE THING. The basic gist of my posts and the majority of others was that having a baby in your teen years is not ideal. No 5 year old looks up at there mommy and says "I want to be a teenage Mom when I grow up" and no mother looks at their kid and says "I was a teenage mom, you should try it, it was awsome!"

The whole problem with the faker that came on as Dezzy (yeah, if you had read the whole thing you would know she was a FAKE!!!!) is that she was advocating for teens to become pregnant. I mean, take her original post and change pregnancy to alcohol(something teens are not supposed to do till adulthood). Here is what you get...

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Too Many People Think Bad of Teenage Drinkers.
But Most of them turn out to be pretty good people. People think that we're too young to drink alcohol coming from experiences i got judged getting addicted at 15 i got judged by more experienced drinkers. I just thinkthat the whenever you feel ready to have a drink it's up to you. But most alcoholics turn out alright and i give out alot of repsect to the rest of the teen drinkers out there. it's not easy but things gets easier.

So, does the above edited quote make sense? Would it be ok for this (fake) kid to advocate children drinking? Why is that any different than telling a kid it is ok to get pregnant?

i wouldnt say to my kids i was a teenage, you should try it, it was awesome. but i will definately say to my kids i was a teenage mum it was awesome.
r u a teen mum? no. im not meaning to be a horrible cos i read your profile and it says you can have kids. but you dont know what its like to be a mum. so stop judging those who are out there trying.
fair enough the other girl may have been a fake and trying to get teens pregnant but it still doesnt give anyone a right to say anything about teen mums or for that matter any mum.
sometimes its never an ideal time for someone to have a baby. but if i was 26 working part time at coles and came on here and said i was having a baby and it was unplanned everyone would be like aww congrats but if i was 17 working full time at a financial planning institute and said the same thing everyone would like down on me. why? all because of my age not the circumstances.
if you dont want it brought up again thats fine. dont write back.

Yeah, I know I said I'd stay out of it. I lied.

Um, telling your kids you had fun at something is saying to them, 'GO DO IT!'. All you'll do is confuse them, 'No you shouldn't be a teen parent, but I loved it!' huh? That's confusing to me, even. If you enjoyed it so much, why are you saying it's a bad thing? This is child logic here, not teen/adult. A teenager will think, 'okay, you aren't telling me to do it, but you are telling me you didn't think it was all that bad. Okay.' Kid logic? 'I don't get it...' and they pick one half of the statement to follow. Usually the positive one, 'Go have kids!'.

Look, leave Bexie alone. There are teen moms on here saying the exact same thing she is, just because she repeated it first does NOT mean you get mad at her. (Trust me, you will not win in a fight against Bexie. I've seen people try.)

And you know, we say, 'congrats' to the pregnant teens on here. We come down hard, but if they're happy, we are happy for them. We make sure they understand that they screwed up, but we help them as much as possible. We would be glad to help you, if ever you need it.

I would also like to add that you have started an argument up again that will go on for DAYS. My tip: PLEASE do not dig things like this up, espescially when you've just joined. We are skeptical of many newcomers, mostly when they start something like this. Accusations are thrown, people get angry, and for weeks afterword I'm nervous to come on here. I wonder, 'what sh!t got started today?'. Please, spare us and yourself the stress, and just drop it.

amylynn91 wrote:

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r u a teen mum? no. im not meaning to be a horrible cos i read your profile and it says you can have kids. but you dont know what its like to be a mum. so stop judging those who are out there trying.

That's very rude. She doesn't have children doesn't mean she doesn't know how it's like to be a mom. There are many women with children and still don't know how it's like to be a mom.

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sometimes its never an ideal time for someone to have a baby. but if i was 26 working part time at coles and came on here and said i was having a baby and it was unplanned everyone would be like aww congrats but if i was 17 working full time at a financial planning institute and said the same thing everyone would like down on me. why? all because of my age not the circumstances.

Both of those situations will get "congratz" regardless. The majority of moms on this web sites are teen moms, who have very intelligent insights and reflections on this topic. If you haven't noticed it, please read a few more threads, or at least go back up a few pages of this thread.