You should definitely tell your boyfriend and the guy you think is your baby's father. I know it's a really hard thing to do, I've been there (if you want to hear the full story pm me and I'll tell you), but it needs to be done. Your boyfriend may be angry with you for a while, but if he really loves you then he'll most likely forgive you eventually. You need to tell the guy you think is the father just because he has a right to know, even if you don't have feelings for him anymore. You also need to tell your parents, especially if you're still on their insurance because you'll need to get all the information on that before you go to your first doctor's appointment. Once you tell the important people that you are pregnant you need to decide with them what you're going to do about it. You have 3 options; abortion (heaven forbid), adoption, and keeping the baby yourself. It's not an easy choice to make, but it also has to be done. Good luck. I hope everything turns out well for you. PM me if you ever need anything.

P.S.- Thanks for the congrats earlier

Hi! I would just like to encourage you to, no matter what, hang in there, and take the best care of yourself and that baby, even if you plan on letting someone else raise the child. I hope you will not choose abortion, even if your parents or either boy press you to. I don't want to start any arguments or offend anyone, I just want to let you know there are people who can help you with your pregnancy, your feelings, labor and delivery, and adoption. Perhaps you and your family will be able to do this, but there are always options that you won't have to feel guilty about in 15 or 40 years. I wish you the very best on this journey. Take good care, now!

mommyfaerie wrote:

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You should definitely tell your boyfriend and the guy you think is your baby's father. I know it's a really hard thing to do, I've been there (if you want to hear the full story pm me and I'll tell you), but it needs to be done. Your boyfriend may be angry with you for a while, but if he really loves you then he'll most likely forgive you eventually. You need to tell the guy you think is the father just because he has a right to know, even if you don't have feelings for him anymore. You also need to tell your parents, especially if you're still on their insurance because you'll need to get all the information on that before you go to your first doctor's appointment. Once you tell the important people that you are pregnant you need to decide with them what you're going to do about it. You have 3 options; abortion (heaven forbid), adoption, and keeping the baby yourself. It's not an easy choice to make, but it also has to be done. Good luck. I hope everything turns out well for you. PM me if you ever need anything.

P.S.- Thanks for the congrats earlier

I've told my dad, the boy who's baby it is, but I haven't told my ex and don't plan on it unless I have to. I love the hell out of him, but he made his choice not to be with me anymore, and that's alright.
I have two options, actually, since I'm not going the abortion route. I've thought about it a lot today, with the ears of a good friend, and decided that I would not be able to live with myself knowing I terminated a baby. And if I ever wanted to have children in the future, I just don't think I'd be able to do it knowing I killed one by choice.
So adoption or keeping it. Equally difficult, but in vastly different ways. I'm going to talk to my doctor about these things when I see him on Wednesday, and see if he can hook me up with a counselor and other helpful people to walk me through the options and what they entail and just have someone to talk to. Which is what I need at this point.
Tuesday, I'm going in to change my classes to online, and flying home to do this with my family around and supporting me in whatever way they feel fit. My dad says he supports me in whatever decision I make, and will be there for me when I need help of any kind. He's a really lovely man, and I'm fortunate to have him be so. I know so many girls in my situation who aren't as fortunate as I am.
Thank you for the well wishes and advice. I truly appreciate everything you've said. It means a lot knowing there's someone out there who is willing to help someone they don't even know. :]

Laura Denise wrote:

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Hi! I would just like to encourage you to, no matter what, hang in there, and take the best care of yourself and that baby, even if you plan on letting someone else raise the child. I hope you will not choose abortion, even if your parents or either boy press you to. I don't want to start any arguments or offend anyone, I just want to let you know there are people who can help you with your pregnancy, your feelings, labor and delivery, and adoption. Perhaps you and your family will be able to do this, but there are always options that you won't have to feel guilty about in 15 or 40 years. I wish you the very best on this journey. Take good care, now!

Thank you. :]
I fully intend on taking the best care I can of this baby while it's a part of me. If I give it up for adoption, I want to know I did everything in my power to make sure it is happy and healthy.
I am pro choice all the way, but it just isn't the choice for me.

I just want to let you know that you are not alone! I was 19 when my boyfriend of 3 years (now my husband) and I found out we were expecting. We spent a lot of time agonizing over what to do, and for insurance reasons we were very close to having an abortion. However, we decided to raise our baby together and now we have a beautiful 4 year old daughter named Ella.

I would definitely encourage you to stay in school...or at least work out a class schedule that works for you. We were both in college full time and working part time when we found out we were having Ella. We both modified our schedule but continued full time, even though I was due the Friday of Finals Week in the spring. I made all my finals because Ella was late, and I started summer classes only 4 days after she was born. I graduated with my B.S. on time and I just finished my Master's in August. You can do it too!

So take my advice for what it's worth, but I could not have done it without my family, friends, and husband. You will need all the support you can get, so be sure to stay close with family, friends, and your baby's father (if possible). They can really help you achieve your goals, become independent, and do what's best for your child...especially if you decide to keep the baby.

If you ever want to talk to someone who has been there, just PM me...I'd be happy to chat. Good luck and keep us updated!

DaynaJ85 wrote:

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I just want to let you know that you are not alone! I was 19 when my boyfriend of 3 years (now my husband) and I found out we were expecting. We spent a lot of time agonizing over what to do, and for insurance reasons we were very close to having an abortion. However, we decided to raise our baby together and now we have a beautiful 4 year old daughter named Ella.

I would definitely encourage you to stay in school...or at least work out a class schedule that works for you. We were both in college full time and working part time when we found out we were having Ella. We both modified our schedule but continued full time, even though I was due the Friday of Finals Week in the spring. I made all my finals because Ella was late, and I started summer classes only 4 days after she was born. I graduated with my B.S. on time and I just finished my Master's in August. You can do it too!

So take my advice for what it's worth, but I could not have done it without my family, friends, and husband. You will need all the support you can get, so be sure to stay close with family, friends, and your baby's father (if possible). They can really help you achieve your goals, become independent, and do what's best for your child...especially if you decide to keep the baby.

If you ever want to talk to someone who has been there, just PM me...I'd be happy to chat. Good luck and keep us updated!

Thank you so, so much for telling me your story. It's inspiring, and makes me feel good to talk to someone who's been there and was successful with college at the same time.

I've worked out the easy stuff about this. aka, the non-baby related. I'm talking to my Academic Advisor tomorrow about switching my classes to online. There's only one that isn't going to work, but it's only a $25 fee to drop it, and it's an elective class so I can replace it with something else. I've already got my classes picked out for next semester and they're all online-compatible.
My dad is already looking at ways to get my return ticket for May switched to the next few weeks, so I can come home and be with them and they can help me out. I talked to my stepmom today and I was so nervous, but she was so supportive it made me cry and I was touched. She legitimately supports me in whichever choice I go with, adoption or keeping it.

I'll definitely keep you updated. And most likely take you up on your offer to chat. :]
Thank you.