Teen mothers can be good mothers, they can be great mothers (2 of my sisters are prime examples). Adult mothers (not old, that is so mean, but technically if you have your first child after 30 you are elderly prima gravida which sounds worse) can be bad mothers, some can be downright horrid mothers.

If you don't think that having a child has reduced your opportunities in life, you are insane, but then again, that is the same for an adult. You can't take a job at night because no daycare, you can't go to medical school because that means 100 hour weeks away from your kid, you can't go out on a date because little Jimmy is projectile vomiting pea soup and you have to wait for his head to start spinning before calling the priest. Having children reduces your opportunities, but it makes up for it in increasing their opportunities, and everyone knows once you have kids, your life isn't about YOU anymore, it's about them.

There are a lot of adult and teen mothers who take benefits. There are a lot that don't. Those benefits are there to help people that need a hand. I have no problem paying for those that need a little help to get back up, and the majority of people don't have a problem with that either.

The problem that I (and most people) have is with those that know they have no ability to care for a child and go out and actively try to conceive with the intention of going on welfare. That goes for adults and teens. It is irresponsible to actively go about bringing a welfare baby in to the world.

The reason it all comes back to teen moms is because teens are still able to be told what to do. There are also usually nonconsenting parties involved in a teen pregnancy (aka Grandma and Grandpa), that end up taking some or all of the responsibility of parenting. Many people place themselves in the position of Grandma or Grandpa and see it from that point of view.

All you teen parents, look at your little ones. What do you want for them? Do you want them to relive your life? Would you want them to do exactly what you did and how you did it? See your childs future in your mind. Do you want your daughters to come to you at 14, 15, 16, 17, and say "Mom, I am pregnant"? Do you want your son to come to you and say "I'm gonna be a daddy"? I don't want to hear "Well if they did I'd supoport them" Hell yes you would because that is what a parent does. The question is, Is that what you WANT for your child's future?

Bexie: What are you talking about, did you see ANY one encouraging me to have a baby on purpose? I sure as hell don't remember any one saying that kind of thing. I remember being told how dumb I was by some people, I remember some people saying I could do it but I shouldn't have but, NEVER did I see some one saying, "Oh yeah you're 15 and you should get pregnant cos at 15 you have the money to do that". You're such a trip, like for real. I mean make a big deal out of nothing! If people wanna be nice and tell me to ignore people like you and share their experiences that's their right. And if people wanna tell me how dumb I was and I can't do it (They may be wrong BUT) that too is their right. While I do think I was stupid now it's too late and I love my kid no matter what. Take a chill pill or something. And if you're still looking to find that I'm a "faker" you're not going to. I'm not faking and I will prove it.

Hana: Thanks for the advice and support.(: It's nice to hear something besides negative about my pregnancy.

I was responding to a specific person taht replied to your post. Sorry, I guess I should have quoted.

As for proving you are not a faker? How are you going to do that? I'd love to see it. As much as I love to argue, i like being proven wrong once in a while. Keeps my head on straight.

As for something negative in my previous post, what exactly did I say that was negative toward teen mothers? I reread it and I sure don't see anything negative. I guess if people are not saying "Oh, you poor little dear, how brave of you" then it must be an "anti-teen mom" post. Ok, so here goes...

Oh, you poor dear, how brave of you.

Feel better?

i was 17 when i found out i was pregnant, now im 21! i got pregnant the night of my Junior prom with a cute basketball player senior. He promised me the world and gave me and my daughter nothing! I found out he was seeing other girls and stuff behind my back and it just broke me in half. i was single for a couple years till i met the man of my dreams! he has stepped in and help he raise my daughter. we are now pregnant again and sometimes i think OMG im doing this again... but be stong! Everyday is different, challenging, and sometimes just emotional. people are going to have their opinions and take em or leave em!

If i could go back to that night in high school after prob, would i have wanted a baby... NO WAY! all of my friends went away to nice colleges and all go out to clubs and bars... while im sitting at home cooking dinner, giving baths, taking a bath, cleaning, and finally the last one to sleep. mind you i am the first one up!

I am a very very proud MOMMY!!! and i hope you are the same. its an amazing blessing and i know you will do a great job at it. just be strong and keep your beautiful head up!

-Ashley " izzys mommy"

Just a quick note. Dont go and blame young girls for getting into your nephews head, because boys will usually like, and get SEX into girls heads too.

That is true, but it isn't usually boys coming on here saying "Im Gonna knock my girlfriend up". I know teenage boys are horny little monsters.