Thank you Emily!



Pchepil- I sent you a PM.. I'm not going to argue with you over this message board. There is no reason we have to bring the rest of the community into this and cause useless drama among the boards. You don't have to reply back to my email.
And for the record I love this baby just as much as I love my other children regardless of the gender and never said I didn't! Go to your inbox. I have a longer explination there.

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Also, it's really hypocritical to say that you love all your kids equally, adopted or biological, when you are so crushed that you are having another girl rather than a boy. (sad when you already have 2 boys) If adopting is no different than having your own baby, why not adopt a boy rather than get pregnant only to be disappointed with a girl? That's really pathetic. Imagine if she found out your disappointment later on in life?

Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is with being "disappointed" when initially finding out the gender is different than what you were thinking/wanting. You're in a state of shock that things didn't turn out like you were planning/hoping and it takes a while to get over that. That in no way should affect how much you love your child. The only way I could see it being bad is if the child were treated badly because of it; like the parent(s) couldn't get over it and take it out on the kid. Otherwise it's just another funny story to tell growing up.

Oh, and saying something as common and natural as gender disappointment is "really hypocritical/pathetic" comes across as very hateful and judgmental.

I hate to say this but what if you end up hating your own child? you don't really know them, you just love them because you birthed them ect. If i ever have a rude, ignorant, racist, bullying, homophobic, child that beat their partner I would have a hard time loving and excepting them. I would love my child because they're innocent and helpless. But hopefully when I have children I raise them to be expectant and tolerant of others.