My fiance and I have been talking alot lately about having a baby and I have some questions and thought who better to ask than parents!

We've been together for just about 2yrs now (will be 2yrs the day we get married in two months time) and we've been talking about having a baby in the near future. I'm 23 and he's 5 1/2yrs my senior and is really ready to start our family and can't wait to be a dad. I'm really excited to be a mom too and I love the idea of starting a family with him but here are my concerns,

One is we both have talked about travelling a little bit (not like long term travelling but 2 weeks trips here or there) but everyone tells us that once you have kids that you don't get the chance to travel. I'd like to think that wasn't true.

Secondly, I know we will be extatic when it happens but I'm just wondering if it's wise to jump right into it at the beginning of our marriage or if we should take some time to ourselves. I don't have doubts about having a baby just whether if we'd be missing out by taking on the responsibility right away or if it's something we really want then we should just do it cuz that will make us happy.

I'd appreciate any advice current parents have to offer on what life is like once you bring a baby into the mix or if some couples waited first.

Thanks so much!

hi

Well I had my first son before I was married but after I got married a year later, we waited 5 years to have another child. I really wanted a baby right afterward but then it really wouldn't be just us. We were young so my oldest son spent a lot of time with his grandparents giving me and his father sometime to be young.

If you would like to travel get all your travleing in now, before you have a baby. Children are attached to their parents and even if you gone for a few days children can get very shaken up.

A really good peice of advice before you start a family, work as a babysitter for young children and be around your friends with kids.

after baby, priorities do change and travel for 3 is more expensive, but not impossible. i would take some time for yourselves, you cant exactly lie on the beach with a toddler running around. when the kids are a little older, you can have more family oriented travel. we've been camping alot this year, and when our youngest turns 5 (in about 5 years lol) we're going to disneyland. we've taking baby to ireland and kenya, so its not impossible, just a little more work and money.

I have had experience on both ends of the spectrum and I would say to wait at least a year. Enjoy each other, and get used to being married. You are only a newlywed for a short while and you should take advantage of this unique time in your relationship, sleep in, travel, experience life together. Build some memories as a duo before you become a trio. Focus on each other and spoil each other. You're both young and can wait a little bit so enjoy it, that way when you do bring that special little person who is part of both of you into the world you can really enjoy it. Like I said you're only a newlywed once so enjoy that time and you only have your first baby once so enjoy that as well. Why stack two of life's most amazing moments into a year? Spread them out and really celebrate each individually

I would give yourself a year, take some time with just you and your husband, travel etc and then see where things stand in a years time.