Ok my sis has this friend that she plays softball with and she has a brother and we both like each other but i think he doesn't no i like him and im almost 14 in November and hes 16 im not sure when his b-day is i no he can drive but my bro and my 2 sisters alway are like weres ur boyfriend and i dont no if i should date him or not or how to let him no i like him?????I want 2 twin gurls at 18 and he will be in his 20s when im preg and i want married at 17 or 18 if i cant have twins i want them to be 1 week or 1 month apart.....I need advice please help

OMG ok listen!! I didnt even think about all of that when I was 14 But u need to know that u cant have a baby for up to a yr after u have the first one honey!! so just take your time and tell the boy u like him and date him and b a teenager ok!!! when u r ready everything else will come into place!!!

Ok i think i need to be responsible here and ask you why on earth would you purposely get pregnant so young? Dont you have any ambition to go to college? Get a career? Learn how to be independant? Build a nest egg? Own your own home first? Spend time alone with ur Husband before kids? Travel? Your young and there is a whole wide world of opportunites out there you could and should try to take advantage of. You have the rest of your life to be a mother and a wife but dont rush towards these things until you've given yourself a chance to experience adulthood without a family. why purposely limit yourself before you have even begun to live your own life?

Then theres the children to consider. If you and your future husband marry so early on you will be less prepared for children financially. Merely a high school education will limit you're earning potential. Money will likely be tight all the way along. You should want your children to have more out of life then you did, and that means you need to earn the money necessary to provide it for them. Im not saying they need silver spoons in their mouths but dont you want to give them the best you can possibly give them.

Thats without me even consdering the divorce rate amongst young couples. The younger you are when you marry the more likely you are to divorce. Then what happens to you. No job. No education. No husband. and kids who are not cheap to raise even with help from the father under normal circumstances.

Kids are great to have and if you want them thats great but would be better to wait until you feel your capable of raising them the best you can. And giving up your future possiblities to have them can be limiting for not only you but your children.

I apologize to any young parents out there who i may have just offended. Not everyone fits in my generalization. But i think most of us can agree a 14 year old whos already planning to get pregnant at 18 without even considering other possiblities is risking trouble.

And as to having babies 1 week or a month apart, you need to pay attention in health class sweetie. It takes 40 weeks of pregnancy to produce 1 child. And you absolutely should not even have sex again until 6-8 weeks after delivery. and even when u can have sex again you shouldnt be aiming for another baby. Your body needs to rest from the strain of pregnancy. There should ideally be at least a year between your first one and when you begin trying for another. I think you really need to speak to your parents about your little plan and what pregnancy and labor and parenting is really like.

I hope you rethink this plan of yours. You should sell yourself short. And you most certainly shouldnt be planning these things unless your actually informed about what it will be like.

i dont like talking to my parents allot i ask you guys soo i dont have to be in this place with them..me and my dad get in fights all the time and the guy he is a fireman and he had a girlfriend that died in a car.But anyway i always wanted to be pregnate young and get married young my mom had me at 20 and married at 20 but i no we are not the best but i dont no why but i just want to have kids i always have babies over and i take care of them one day this little boy came up to me and said is that ur baby and i want to be able to say ya

why on earth would you plan to get pregnant that young. i had my first baby at 18, and it was not easy. at that age the father is rarely mature or responsible enough to want to take care of a baby. neither is the mother for that matter. you should listen to Britdad, he's pretty much hit the nail on the head. i hope your perspective changes as you get older, otherwise youre setting yourself up for a whole world of trouble.

Before you begin reproducing, I think you should take the time to learn some grammar and how to spell first. Ridiculous. You said that your mom had you quite young and you express that your life is far from perfect. A baby should not be born with the task of fullfilling some emotional need that you have. You should want more for yourself and your FUTURE children.