What really won't help Natalia is if you abandon her and the twins. You really have no choice now but to stick it out and do the best you can (which is going to be GREAT).

Try taking it one day at a time. You won't have to worry about college for a very long time, and hopefully your babies will so smart that they will get scholarships!

Girls who have a good Daddy around are much less likely to be promiscuous, because they already have a strong male figure in their life and they don't long for another one. Be there for your girls, and they will be just fine.

I know, it'd kill me inside to leave her pregnant and alone but what if I messed up, what if the kids turned out all weird and it was my fault. Or what if something happens to Natalia because of me getting her pregnant with twins?

Ryan, how old is Natalia? How old are you?
You are old enough to go around making babies, with a girl you do not want to marry, and you are a self-proclaimed "Mama's boy', and now you say you "want out"???
Well it is not that easy. Even if you were to leave Natalia, you are still going to be responsible, financially and emotionally. You will be paying for these kids for a long time. And wouldn't you rather have their respect and love, then be known as the sperm donor...the man who ran out on them and their Mom?
I am not trying to be too hard on you Ryan, but......COWBOY UP!!!!
You can do this.
Do not worry yet about when they are teenagers. Get thru the pregnancy and then deal with one stage at a time.
As for your Mom and Natalia not getting along, well that happens. but remember, you can still love and respect your Mom and Natalia, but do not disrespect either of them in front of the other.Do not take sides. Stand up for what you feel is right.
And Ryan.....no more talking about running, ok?? Show you can be a man and face the responsibilities that you got yourself into. You were a willing partner, so now you have to pay the consequences.

hang in there. We are here, read some books, and be proud and responsible and mature!!!

I'm 19 about to be 20 and Natalia is 18.
You make me sound so bad.
I know I can't leave
yeah when she first found out she was pregnant she bought me this Daddy to be book, I'll look for it.

Ryan, it is very important that you do not let the reality of having two babies at one time scare you away from someone you love, there are many people who have a child at a young age and feel similar to how you feel about having two babies. Most of all, if you and Natalia share responsibility for your children, you will both be fine. Even if your parents are not willing to help, do you have friends who would come over to take off some of the pressure? There are lots of online communities that may be for parents of twins who could offer suggestions for adapting? My sister-in-law had a difficult time when my nephew was born. My brother is in the Army, and my sister-in-law is from Scotland, so she felt very alone and upset, she found an online community that really helped her, I'll ask which one. You might even be able to find other parents in your area who have twins, maybe the nurseries and schools could give you advice or connect you to other parents?

Remember, you are never alone in this, don't lose hope, being concerned is a normal part of being a parent, you'll be fine.

I also think, perhaps it is time to confront your mother about your relationship with Natalia, explain that it is very much YOUR decision whether or not to get married just as much as it is Natalia's, ask your mother what is more important to her- being a grandmother or her personal opinions on "marital/family values'? Tell her that she cannot be a positive influence in the lives of your children if she continues to think of them as bastards. Tell her that this question is not an ultimatum, but an attempt to help her understand that it is hypocritical to see Natalia as a "bastard bearer" but not to see the twins as bastards. Regardless of whether or not you are a mama's boy, you will have your own family soon, you and Natalia will be the leaders of the house, so your mother will have to learn to respect you and Natalia as responsible parents who make their own decisions, she either sees you as a man or a boy, you being a father should help her mental image of you mature, the sooner you confront her, hopefully the sooner that will happen.