Well why do they have to know when you go into labor? And I would think most maternity wards have great security so people don't try and steal babies. I just took a tour of ours and you can't even get onto the unit without talking to a nurse first. Maybe you should let the hospital know in advance what's going on and maybe have them put some kind of security on alert. I would also think about getting a restraining order for the long haul, if this person is acting like this now then they will probably continue and that could get scary. And for heaven's sake don't drive an hour. Maybe you could tell that person you'll be driving an hour to a different hospital... What an aweful person to do this.

Alright well thanks for everybody that has responded... I've decided I'm going to try to drive to the next state which is about an hour away, since they have in general better security and drug tests for the nurses.
Also, I have told this person numerous times that they are not welcome, but they seem to think that since I'm female my opinion does not matter. Also, they have relatives near me, so they will probably just lurk around the hospital until I show up.
But I'm going to try to make it to a different hospital, and hopefully baby is willing to go with the plan, the only bad thing is that my dr won't be there. I asked him if he could induce me a few days early, to avoid all this but I don't think he was too keen on the idea.

Anyways though, a bunch of my friends and family members have now volunteered to make sure he doesn't do anything, and hubby has a bunch ex military people volunteering to make sure nothing happens to the baby. And a bunch of buff guys are now telling this person it would be in his best interest not to show up, so hopefully this will all work out.

Again sorry for being all weird, and getting everyone involved I was just really upset, but I'm a lot better now. And thank you.

pouse, you do what you need to do.

Here am I, Genevra, telling you what to do, and I certainly would never tell you that you are paranoid. I actually have a security guard living in my house, with me, due to something similar to what I think you are going through. I do not leave my house without him, ever. Do you have a family friend, who could watch guard for you that day, so you feel safe?

Anyway, I would talk to your doctor, and is it possible to transfer doctors now. Maybe, call the local police, and ask about the security issue at the hospital, and you can request guards to be there, that is your right, to have safety.

You do whatever you need to do, to make it easiest on your nerves, and so you will feel comfortable, and safe. Is there a Womans Shelter in your area, you could discuss your concerns there, and they will help you with details, and security. Trust me, check them out.

- Genevra

Well Genevra, we are going to visit the hospital tomorrow, and tell them whats going on, and see what they tell us.

Hubby said he would wait outside the door with a couple of his buddies if need be, and if necessary escort this person out of the hospital by force, granted they might all get kicked out, but he said he really doesn't care because its his family thats being threatened, and he doesn't want this person around our baby, since the guy is a freak.

Anyways, thats really all I know for now. I will find out what the hospital says and go from there.

At one point I was in the same situation. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I just filled for a restraining order. I was scared for myself and my daughter. If you feel like that, you should do anything to keep you and your child safe. It's not weird or you being paranoid to worry about your baby. It's called being a mother.