Do you think its okay for a married, father of two to watch it?

I went on my husband's laptop last night and I found porn all over his computer. To tell you the truth, I was quite shocked to come across it because we have a very good sex life and I don't understand why he would need anything like that when he can come over to me anytime he is in the mood.
I personally think its a little disrespectful, but maybe I'm just naive. What do you all think? Do you think its acceptable for your husband to watch porn?
I'm in an awkward situation right now and I don't know what to think or do. I don't know if I should talk to him about it or not.

It concerns me that he doing this because I don't see why he feels the need to when we make love pretty often. How much stimulation does he need until he is finally satisfied??

And this is the strange part that concerns me the most...... Most of the porn on his computer was "barely legal" teen fetish porn. Now what is a 36 year old married father doing fantasizing about 18 and 19 year old girls??

This just concerns me and makes me judge his character and doubt his parenting skills. I really just feel awkward around him ever since last night and I can't look at him the same way again, especially when he is around our kids.

Am I overreacting?

Help?!!

I think you're justified in your reaction to what you found. My advice is to tell him what you think, try not to come off as judgemental but i think if you took the time to write in a forum then it matters enough to confront him about this. And I agree with you, I think it reflects poorly on a man to be interested in teen fetish porn and it would make me wonder about his parenting capabilities too. I hope things work out. good luck.

Ok I was really hoping yu had a accunt so I culd talk to you about this matter privately because I dont want people to jugde me. Have long have you been married andtogether for?

first off I want you to know I 100 percent agree with you yes I think its disrespectful and offensive.

But this is how it was explained to me. Men no atter what age will always have sex on there mind. Men watchin porn is a way to keep them from cheating. Its not neccarily the sex but watching porn well the girls stuff that way he doest get tired of the same um whats a none graffic word we'll call it kitty cat. Because they will have the same kitty cat for the rest of there lives and watching porn will keep them from gettin bord of the same thing and same kitty. Yes I know this sounds rediculous and awlful and kinda imature. I think that he was wrong for keeping this away from you. Just sit down and talk to him and have him expain it to you.

Hi girls, thanks for the responses.

Genevra, fortunately he had no illegal porn on his computer. I just came across those "barely legal" type fetish sites that focus on 18-19 year old girls. Most of them dressed up in provocative school girl outfits, cheerleader outfits, etc.

And he had a lot of photos and video clips downloaded onto his computer from the sites.

Even though all the porn he has is legal, I'm still concerned that he is even watching porn to begin with behind my back ESPECIALLY teen porn. Even though the girls are "legal", it concerns me that he may have a fetish and that he is interested in such young women when he is 36, married, and a father!!

I understand that I can't always be there for my husband sexually, But I'd prefer it if he didn't watch porn. I find it disrespectful to me and our relationship. Is that naive of me to think? Is that also too "controlling"?

I perhaps wouldn't mind him watching porn if he told me about it and if he somehow engaged me in it. I know some couples enjoy watching porn together from time to time, and I see no problem with that as long as both people are involved and as long as it doesn't become a habit! I also wouldn't allow "fetish" porn.


Now I don't know if I should confront him about it. I know he'll just get mad at me and accuse me of "snooping". And then he won't trust me anymore and he'll probably be offended and hurt that I didn't trust him.

The truth is, I didn't intend on "snooping"! He was taking a shower last night and he left his laptop
turned on on the table in our room, so I went on to go check my email. It was a totally innocent move, I didn't plan on invading his privacy, I just went to check my email and I happened to come across the porn sites in his "history", his favorites, and downloads tab. And then I saw that he had some video files downloaded on his desktop as well.

I told one of my older friends about it and she just told me I'm young and being naive (I'm only 23). She said all men watch porn because they need variety and that I shouldn't judge him or try to control him. Do you really believe this?

I can't help but still be concerned and a little angry. I really hope not ALL men are like this, and I hope this is something my husband can change in himself.

Justins1favmom wrote:

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Ok I was really hoping yu had a accunt so I culd talk to you about this matter privately because I dont want people to jugde me. Have long have you been married andtogether for?

first off I want you to know I 100 percent agree with you yes I think its disrespectful and offensive.

But this is how it was explained to me. Men no atter what age will always have sex on there mind. Men watchin porn is a way to keep them from cheating. Its not neccarily the sex but watching porn well the girls stuff that way he doest get tired of the same um whats a none graffic word we'll call it kitty cat. Because they will have the same kitty cat for the rest of there lives and watching porn will keep them from gettin bord of the same thing and same kitty. Yes I know this sounds rediculous and awlful and kinda imature. I think that he was wrong for keeping this away from you. Just sit down and talk to him and have him expain it to you.

We have been together for 6 years. We started dating when I was 17 and he was 30 (don't worry, in my state the age on consent is 16, so it was perfectly legal). We got married when I was 19 and I gave birth to our first child, a daughter, 4 months later.

I think its very disrespectful and I can't believe men are such pigs! Thats what one of my friends told me too, and I couldn't and still can't believe it. I still have hope that there are some guys out there who don't feel the need to go behind their wives backs and watch porn.

I just wish my hubby didn't have to watch porn. I understand him pleasuring himself, but is the porn really necessary??

*sigh* now i'm just fed up with men!