To make a long story short I was in a 9mo relationship with a guy that is a womanizer(learning this right at the 9mo mark)- he left me oneday without a word to go and be with a lady who just had his baby(which when were together I knew she was pregnant and he claim pretty much the whole time it wasn't his) I was fine with him leaving me because I was learning this is a guy not for me- a week later I found out I was pregnant- I told him- he hasn't played a role in the pregnancy at all- I was harassed by her( the lady he lives with) and him in the beginning- I got my numbers changed and he would call my office phone sometimes never really about the baby but about how he still loves me....I finally told him not to call me anymore because it was stressful- My ex or should I say were back together now whom I have 2 kids a 16 yr. relationship with has been there for this pregnancy as if it was his- I don't want the bio father in the picture at all- he is full of lies and I just don't want to see him- my longtime relationship with my first 2 kids will the baby father- am I wrong for feeling this way and can it be possible for the bio not to be in her life just in case he gets in touch with me getting close to due date now- I just want nothing to do with him( I don't think I painted just how bad the bio is but he comes off as being a charming person)- It was unplanned(slippage of condom) and a time in my life I was on the rebound from the 16 yr relationship which in looking back I should have never left this longterm relationship- I worry about this- I just want to live in peace with my baby and my family without him. Anyone have advice?

I get it.
The only way to make sure he isn't in your life is to see if he'll give up his rights as a father to that child.
I hope I was a little help!

Thanks for your response- this whole thing is a mess and it's the unknown that has me worried- what if this; what if that and knowing him he wouldn't give up rights even though he doesn't have much going on for himself to really care for her like she would need- I just hopes he stays away so far he has- I don't plan on contacting him when she born nor will I put his name on birth certificate. If there is anything else you can think of please let me know and please keep me and my baby in your prayers- I'm glad I'm not living a lie with him today as I was this time last year.

My opinion is tell him to get lost. When the baby grows up, let it be their decision if they want him in their life. I know someone in a similar situation to the one you're in. Right now, be with the man you love and who while treat you right and love your kids. I hope i helped and good luck! PM me sometime and let me know how things are going. Good luck!

Thank you so much- I was thinking I would leave it up to her in the future another thing is we happen to work in the same place but different shifts now(different departments) and I hate people coming up to me talking about him and asking about the baby including him in the conversation knowing his a player because they know- It's just been once hell of a year for me.

Forget about the people talking to you about him. It's your baby and it's none of their business. As long as you give your baby the best life you can, that's all that matters
Best of luck!