My husband I and I have been planning on trying to have a second child when our daughter, Morgann, turns 3. She will be 2 this Nov. 17. Our reasoning for waiting is as follows:

1. At 4 Morgann will be able to do more thing for herself and that would allow us to focus more on the new baby.
2. Morgann will be starting preschool which will allow us some alown time with the baby. I feel this is important because Morgann had so much alone time with us.
3. We will not have two children in college at the same time (unless they go for more than a 4yr. degree).

Lately I have been getting the urge to start trying sooner for a second child, like now. Our age is a factor, I had Morgann at 32 and my husband is about nine month older than I. I guess his age doesn't matter, just mine.

Should we stick to our original plan and wait another year or should we chuck the plan and get started now?

All opinions are appreciated.

Oh, and I almost forgot. We are planning on taking Morgann to Disney World just before her third birthday (this is very important to my husband, I am looking forward to it also). If we get pregnant, those plans would most likely change.

Hey CariannDS how are you??

I totally understand how you are feeling, as i am feeling the same. I have a daughter who is 18mths old & me & my husband have decided to start trying again when she is 2yrs. We always said we wanted 2/3yrs between our children, as we are both from a very big close family and we would like the same for our children.
However, i am now starting to feel very broody and have been thinking about weather to try a little earlier than planned.

I can see where your coming from on your points, however its only a year before you planned? Just think it may not happen straight away for you, you only have 1shot a month to concieve so it could very well take you up to a year to which Morgann will then be 3 (like you planned.)One shot every month is not very long at all when you think about it.
You mentioned you think your age maybe a factor, well if you guys really want to try now then i say go for it.. now before its too late!

P.S Chuck the plan and get started now!?

I think if it feels right, go for it!
There are a lot of reasons to try sooner, too.
1. You'll be out of diapers faster
2. It'll be easier to do family things earlier, like skiing, etc.
Well, maybe just a couple, but I'm sure other people have more reasons.

The above posters have very good points, experience, and knowledge, Cariann. I understand your doubts though, you want to be able to spend the time with Morgann. What I say is, maybe start trying just before Morgann turns two. This is good for two reasons:

1) You will be able to take Morgann to Disney World for her 2nd birthday, as a family of 3.

2) Morgann and baby no 2 will be spaced 3 years apart, which is fabulous in my opinion. Morgann will just be old enough for you to "train" her to help out a little with the baby, yet she'll be young enough so they'll be playmates and hopefully will be playmates for the rest of their lives. 4 years is quite a long time. If the newborn is needing you, and Morgann is four, she will be more attentive to the fact that the baby needs you more in different ways than Morgann does. She'll crave attention and her attitude may start to change.

So I say, go for it...after Disney World!

Thank you for your comments. You all make good points. I will let you know if our plans change. My mind changes daily.

Does your husband want to go ahead and have another baby now too? If so, I say go ahead!

I haven't even had my first yet. My husband wanted to wait until we had been married for 5 years to even start trying. I talked him down to 3 years though. We now have been married five years and are still trying for a baby (since 2006) with no luck so far. I say if you want another one don't put it off. If I had my way we would have started trying a year into our marriage. Now I'm having a hard time getting pregnant.