HIS MOM SAYS TWINS ARE TERIBLE AND SAYS TO GIVE ONE OF THEM UP FOR ADOPTON BUT WHICH ONE? AND I DONT THINK I COULD DO THAT HE IS TAKING HER SIDE BUT I DONT WANT TO GIVE UP MY DAUGHTER WHAT DO I DO

Wow...what is goin on? Absolutely not...don't let them have the decision of doing that. Twins need to be together. You were granted w/the situation of having these babies. I'm sorry but I'd tell them to kiss my you know what. Why does she think they're terrible? Has she ever had them before? If she hasn't than she knows absolutely nothing. It's twice the joy and twice the hard work, but it's worth it. I don't have kids, but my brothers are twins and if anything happened to either of them I would go balistic. You need to come up w/a good plan if they keep their decision!

You need to decide to keep both babies or give them both up for adoption AND have an open adoption where you can have contact with them.

WAIT A MINUTE I just read in another place where you wrote your husbandis giving you a guilt trip because this was an unplanned pregnancy. . . EXCUSE ME it takes two to tango and make babies!
Adoption? Why? Can you not afford two little ones plus the one you already have? or Is it just not in his "schedule"?
I was under the assumption when I first read that you were single and were not going to have any support and were getting pressure from the "sperm person" and his mom.
I don't know your circumstances but if you do decide to put the children up for adoption. I would always want an OPEN adoption.

I just had to jump in here, being a twin mommy of 5 year old boys Tyler and Tyson, and let me tell ya. They are alot of hard work. But You get into routine. Stay organized. My boys are the sweetiest most creative lil guys. They love each other so much. Its a bond unlike anything. They protect each other, soothe each other, and are best friends. My Dad and uncle are also twins and they are closer then best of friends. You can not seperate them.It would be cruel. I agree with the post above saying you cant gv up one, you would hv to gv up both it wouldnt be fair to your children. That bond is created in utero.

As far as mother in law goes, this subject shouldnt at all be her choice who does she think she is telling you to make a choice like that. Dont get me rong im not against adoption, I think sometimes thats the right choice. If you hv any questions about the subject, send me apm id be happy to tell ya all about twins and how fun they can be.

*Mary*

i dont know what his problem is he wants to give up one because they hell have to take time from work I have an almost 8 yearold daughter and an four year old son But I WILl NOT give one up we can afored it he is a pharmasist for lords sake but his mom had triplets and two are in jail one is dead so she wants me to give up mine i dk what to do I cant seperate we have to stay together for the kids so do i just do what he says?