Tazlyn...

I'm glad that this was the reaction you got... I was looking to inspire. I was worried that you would somehow become upset over my post.

Please please keep us updated! I'll be praying for you and your little baby! Whatever the outcome, I hope that you'll both have much happiness in your lives.

if you really want your baby to have a good future, then i think it would be btter if youll just leave or something and wait until its ur husband hul come after you. i mean, it wud be bad for ur child in the future to have a father who doesnt really care ( i dont know if thats the proper word to use). if your afraid that ur child will grow up widout a father,i think u shud be more afraid that ur child will grow up with an alcoholic dad. ur better off widout him if he wont change for u and his own child. just a thought

Tazlyn, the reason you've received so much encouragement is because we've all been there. We've walked in your shoes (sometimes more than once), and endured the pain of loss, and "what might have been". We've sacrificed for the sake of our children, and the sake of ourselves. We've made it to the other side, and have become stronger and better women for it. We no longer feel like an empty shell. We no longer feel defeated and full of self-doubt. We are filled with hope, life, and if nothing else, the love, happiness, and well-being of our children. You're not alone.

I would like to recommend the book, "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo. They made a movie with the same title, but you really need to read the book. It explains in perfect clarity the insane machinations of the male mind. The book is short, easy to read, and filled with good advice. Good luck!

Stacey...

I just want to thank you so much for opening up like that to a complete stranger, I really appreciate it from the bottom of my heart I can't thank you enough for being so honest.

You brave woman, you deserve a medal that's for sure!
I'm sorry you had to go through that, I really am...
It terrible, but it as really woken my eyes as to what can happen in the future if I don't put my foot down and act on this now!

I've already started staying back at my folks, need to concerntrate on finishing my study and my health. I was getting way too stressed out, I have my 20 week ulrasound tomorrow and he wants to come so I may let him, and try have a chat to him then... Maybe he'll wake up and realise family is more important that drinking with mates all the time!

Glad to hear you stood up for yourself and doing well now, I admire you alot... All the best for the future! xx


Angel...

I will have to look around for that book, thanks for the tip!

My heart goes out to you and your unborn baby. I have been going through a similar situation... I am 12 weeks pregnant with my first child and my boyfriend was going out almost on a nightly basis to hang out with his friends and at least once sometimes twice a week he would stay out all night and not let me know where he was, who he was with, or even if he was coming home that night. Luckily he wasn't abusive... A week and a half ago I said enough is enough and left him. I wanted him to know that I wasn't going to stand by and allow this anymore. Either he respects me or Im gone. We still haven't gotten back together and I am currently living with my grandma but I know we will be back together soon. I know its hard to leave and I felt the same way as you, I don't want to be a single mom but you gotta do whats best for you and the baby even if its leaving him. If he really loves you and wants to make it work he will change for good for fear of losing you and his child. But you have to show him that what he's doing isn't going to fly anymore. I wish you the best of luck!