I've been on the pill for 2 years and I've just turned 18 in October. Though my reasons for being on the pill are totally different - regulating my periods.

Kids are having sex as early as 12/13 these days. Get her on the pill or another contraceptive. She'll more than likely despise her mother and have sex with him anyway.

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Kids are having sex as early as 12/13 these days.

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I'm 18 and have been on the pill for a year now. I personally think that your sister should put your niece on the pill. Better to be safe than sorry, if she's thinking about it. But also let her know that the pill doesn't protect her against everything.

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I'm with your sister and think it sends the wrong message and I don't think it's right to just assume that she's going to do it anyway.

Actually, she has basically said that she IS going to sleep with the guy. you don't go to your mother and ask for birth control if you are not sure it is going to happen.

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When my girls get old enough to ask about that stuff I'm going to tell them that if they think they're really old enough to have sex then they're old enough to deal with the consequences on their own

Isn't asking for birth control taking responsibility? It seems like the right thing to me.

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and there's a lot worse things out there than getting pregnant, which is the only thing that birth control prevents.

Absolutely, there are many things much worse, but pregnancy is the one you can't hide. Everyone knows you are pregnant eventually, and there are many that will try to shame a girl for an unplanned pregnancy, and there are many who will label her for the rest of her life.

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I'm also leaning towards personally being against birth control all together...and I have some moral issues with it to begin with.

I know a lot of people are against birth control for various reasons, mostly religious. I don't understand why prevention is bad, but bringing unwanted children into the world is ok. I knwo that abstaining from sex is best, I get that in an perfect world, that would be the solution. However, we are all imperfect, premarital sex happens, and without birth control, babies come. What would your solution be for all these unwanted kids?

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...as well as I've not had a good experience with anything I've tried...

A lot of people can't do the hormones. My niece has a bad reaction to the hormonal bc's. She also gained a lot of weight on them. If you have to go back to some form of non-barrier method, I would suggest a different dosage pill. Alesse is a low dose Levonorgestrel and Ethinyl Estradiol that is highly tolerable. I take Aviene, which is similer to Alesse, to regulate my cycles (I don't cycle without it).

Well, I may very well get ridiculed for saying this, but I would not get bc for her.
First of all, I would be thrilled that my daughter would come to me and talk about it all. But, hopefully I would have made it clear long before that that would not be an option. It sounds like the daughter is counting on the response of "Oh, you came and talked to me and asked--how sweet--well, okay honey, here you go!"
I am certainly not at this stage yet, but I will be letting my boys know what our standards are, why we have these standards, etc. And that if they ever get a girl pregnant, if they get one of those kinds of diseases, whatever, they are fully responsible for their choices and actions. Sure, I'd love the grandchild, but I would not be supporting it--my son and the mother would have to be the adults they should be and figure it out.
As ReenaC said, it you don't want to get pregnant, don't have sex, period. People can live up to this ideal!

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It sounds like the daughter is counting on the response of "Oh, you came and talked to me and asked--how sweet--well, okay honey, here you go!"

I think the conversation should be more like "Oh, you came and talked to me and asked, and you should know birth control isn't 100% effective, but an unwanted pregnancy isn't the only thing you need to worry about. The pill doesn't protect you from any of the diseases out there. When you choose to have sex with a guy, you are having sex with every single one of his partners, and all of their partners too. Also, if you don't feel like this is the path you should be on, don't let a boy push you into doing something you are not ready to do. If he isn't willing to wait, he isn't worth it. I love you, and I appreciate you coming to me with this instead of relying on your friends for information. I would rather you not have sex until you are grown, but I know that it is not easy to abstain with all the pressures on you. I want you to think about your choices and do what is right for you and your life. Because I don't want you out there unprotected, we will get you on birth control, but I don't want you to take that as my approving of you having sex, I want you to understand that I want you to wait until you are grown and ready for all the responsibilities and consequences of sexual activity."