It is your child you an your husband should name your child.

What should I say?

Say, Yes, I know you don/t like that. Yes, I know I have a baby now to name, and yes, I want to name this baby with special names. I hope you will be happy for us, trust us, and believe we know what is best for our baby. So, now you will have a surprise, and you will be the first one to know the name after this baby is born. Hug her. and walk away.

End of discussion. Stop talking to her about the name. Just say, I know, I know but you are going to have to wait, so we can surprise you.

If she natters at you, let her go on and on, but do not respond. Then, when she is silent, say Are you finished now? Good, because so am I. I hope you have a lovely drive home tonight, and really just think about what I have said to you today.

And I am afraid, you will need to say this to her many, many times. Even as your child is growing up, she will try to meddle. Just cut it at the bud, and do not allow her to control you.

And have hubby beside you, agreeing with everything you say to her, so she gets it. Absolutely make a pact with your man to always support eachother in front of her, even if you don't agree. ALWAYS stand together, and say nothing if you disagree with eachother in front of her. Just turn and walk away, and talk about it after she is gone. She sounds like the kind of woman who will not be happy, no matter what you chose. Do not let her control you. Stand firm, and be gracious all the way through. She cannot argue with these words. Try it.

I know exactly what your talking about because my mother in law is the same way and she likes the ugliest names in the world! She dont like what I have chosen either! But she just has to get over it!

So I was telling Ryan about his mom has to leave me alone with names and than all of a sudden he gets STEAMING mad and like litteraly screams in my face about how If i resent his mother than he can't be with me, blah blah!

Then like an hour later he comes back in the room all apoligetic how sorry he is, his mood swings are almost worse than mine, is that normal?

I am really glad to hear from you today.

Yes,daddy's mood swings can be rampid as well. Remember he is Italian. Having a baby is serious business, and a man also feels stressed due to financing the new family. He now has a new provider role instinct that cuts into his psyche. It can be overwhelming, and scary for the guy, but he's not going to tell you this, especially if he is macho.
Are you reading our entries together, so he can understand why you are saying that. It is concerning to hear the way he conveyed his message to you, hopefully he will understand that this yelling, in your face stuff, would not be good for the baby, and it is not good for the mom either.
Maybe he is scared, to grow up, and one is required to cut Mommas apron strings to be able to walk on their own. Obviusly this guy has had his mother controlling things for him all his life. I say, don't be afraid to be honest with him, and tell him what you need. You need him to be your mate. The adult that he is suppose to be. He is not Mommy's boy anymore, and he needs to find better ways to handle his tantrums. If what I write pisses him off, have him witell that to me, not yell it in your face. K Genevra

genevra wrote:

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I am really glad to hear from you today.

Yes,daddy's mood swings can be rampid as well. Remember he is Italian. Having a baby is serious business, and a man also feels stressed due to financing the new family. He now has a new provider role instinct that cuts into his psyche. It can be overwhelming, and scary for the guy, but he's not going to tell you this, especially if he is macho.
Are you reading our entries together, so he can understand why you are saying that. It is concerning to hear the way he conveyed his message to you, hopefully he will understand that this yelling, in your face stuff, would not be good for the baby, and it is not good for the mom either.
Maybe he is scared, to grow up, and one is required to cut Mommas apron strings to be able to walk on their own. Obviusly this guy has had his mother controlling things for him all his life. I say, don't be afraid to be honest with him, and tell him what you need. You need him to be your mate. The adult that he is suppose to be. He is not Mommy's boy anymore, and he needs to find better ways to handle his tantrums. If what I write pisses him off, have him witell that to me, not yell it in your face. K Genevra

I ABSOLUTELY agree with Genevra. Everything she said there is what I would say. I was trying to think of a way to respond, but I just didn't know how to put it and that's it, right there. That's the best advice for your situation, Natalia. Good luck, I can understand that this isn't an easy situation but keep us updated and we'll be glad to share our advice.