well this is pretty close to home in some aspects...i have always had an irregular period as well and would have it a day or two at most no pain..well i was dating a guy and we used protection everytime which was good since i found out he had about 4 other girls on the side we broke up and i dealt with my own life and i had an ulcer the summer before hand so when i felt pain in my stomach i went to the doctor and told him he told me it was a baby kicking!! i was almost 6 months along..i was afraid of my dad and my mom flew off the handle and it actually got me closer to my dad but i decided i would do it on my own at 21 i had pretty much raised my now 8 year od bro cuz my mom worked three jobs since he was 1 and i had a lil boy but i was determined i was going to be alone and not date cuz i didnt want to bring a guy who wasnt good to be around my son and two years later i met a great guy and he was great with my son but i found out i was pregnant after dating only 2 months and i felt the same as u..i thought my family would think i was a whore even tho i have always put my son before myself and then he broke up with me cuz he didnt want to have a baby anymore and i am going to do it alone with 2 kids and my family since the whole ordeal the first time around have never been more supportive to me in my life and i am sure the initial shock will hit your family at first but the fact that this guy wants to be there and do everything he can will most likely help ease they're minds...dont worry...things work out ....even when u think things cant get worse...if u can deal with a lady like my mom u can deal with anything

Thanks everyone, esp J camp...I guess your story more closely relates with mine as far as becoming pregnant so soon. Now to address another issue, SHELBYSAH... I guess I could say i appreciate your opinion but your tone really wasnt necessary! Maybe you read a little two much into what I wrote. For one, my Dads a minister, hence i grew up around christianity all my life. I wasnt blaming my problem on God!?!? I was just sayin it in the context of, I thought i wasnt gonna have a child anytime soon but God had another plan in store for me! So bite me! Anywho... my parents were never married an i just currently moved in with my mom about 2 months ago. My dad lives 2 hours away. But i know he'll be easier on me but i think my mom will be even more pissed b/c i live with her an didnt tell her versus telling dad first. But who cares, she'll get over it. But i've def been apartment shoppin so the sooner the better!

ok girl, FIRST- it's obviously MEANT for you to be a mother at this time in your life. NOTHING happens without a reason & you being a minister's daughter should know this. God doesn't do things to punish us, that's not part of the job description, right? Having a baby is a WONDERFUL gift that soooooo many people NEVER get to experience. DOn't worry I'm not judging you or anything like that, THAT'S not in MY job description, that's only for God to do, & you know that as well too. SECOND- You're 20, NOT 15, or 16. I was 16 when found out I was pregnant & had her when I was 17. YES I was scared to death to tell my mom, YES I was scared about how I'd be as a mother & of course about my relationship with my NOW husband. NO you two don't have to get married because you have a child together, no matter what anyone says or tries to pressure you to do, WHEN you get there. I was 16, & had ALWAYS been the levelheaded teenager who NEVER went out to parties or ANYTHING, I was always good in school & everything, so I BLEW that statistic to pieces. I also graduated High school early, took some time off from school afterwards & started working. We now have ANOTHER daughter who will be 2 in november & in 2 weeks I'm giving birth to our first son. i also go to school part time to get my degree in paralegal. We didn't plan our first OR 3rd child, but God obviously had it in HIS plans for us.
My mom was the only one of 6 kids to graduate high school & my dad died when i was a baby. I've been through alot more personal things, but THAT's a different story. The point IS, that my mom was STILL there for me, she was STILL my best friend, she STILL loved me. Sure she was upset, but hey, I was 16.
It sounds like you come from a VERY loving & caring family & I'm sure they'll be just as supportive if not moreso. Sure you've only been together 2 months, & yeah you have a history to tell them about, IF you choose to tell them that part. because like I said, THAT"S history there's nothing you or anyone else can do to change that now. BUT the important thing for you to do is to STOP letting yourself freak out over what others will think & START going to a DR, probably a high risk DR, since you HAVE had a previous abortion, because it CAN possibly cause complications with this pregnancy. So be sure you tell the DR about it.
Sure your mom MAY be upset, ESPECIALLY if you tell her about the previous abortion because she may feel...left out, or even betrayed because you didn't come to her when you were going through probably the toughest thing you've EVER been through, but she'll be glad that you came to her with this one. And if your dad is as understanding as you say, he'll be fine also. They will BOTH love your child to death & spoil him or her rotten. They've been in a situation similar to yours, so I don't see them being the type to disown you. Honesty is ALWAYS best, no matter how hard it is to tell someone, & you'll feel 1000 times better afterward, especially with assurance from them. How old is your boyfriend by the way?
I just wanted to add that if you want, you can let me know & I'll give you my personal email or myspace address & if you want to talk or need further advice on this, then I'm here.
~~And this is to SHELBYSAH-babies are NEVER mistakes, that's a VERY harsh thing to say, & you should think that maybe someone once thought YOU were a mistake.~~

Thanks Jadynzmd, you made alot of valid points and suggestions. I guess im just super critical on myself because most of my family members in my age group 20-30 either never graduated, have felonies, a basketball team of kids an just havent did anything with their lives in general. So i guess my family was really just wanting me to do somethin with my life. I went to a university for two years but i decided to take a break, an look what happened when i decided to relax an work! I guess i had too much free time. But to answer your question he's 20 also, well he'll be 21 in Jan an then i'll be 21 in April, but i doubt i'll be having too much fun b/c the lil one will be due right around then I mean, i know my situation could have been worse or i couldve been younger (no disrespect to teen moms) but i guess everyone just has the dream of being an established adult that can provide everything for their child b4 they have one. Ya know? Or maybe that was just me. I'm an adult now so its time to start facing my problems, we'll not to call the little one a problem but ya know what I mean!