I posted a discussion not to long ago about how i needed adive on handling my children.
They are quite spoilt but isn't every child in a way, even if the parents say they're not we all want the best for them and in that way we are spoiling them.

I admit and put my hands up to everything, i spoil my children like mad, they are not selfish at all and are very well mannered but have they're moments when they want something and have a fit, i control them as much as i can and they are very polite.
In the future my children will not be spoilt, selfish and snobby but have the best i can provide for them, so would you really call that spoiling children?


Do you think that spoiling a kid is good or bad?
I think it will benefit them in the future if you think about it the way i do. And when i mean spoiling i mean treating them to alot of things not give them whatever they want when they scream for it.

Stacey.x.

I guess it depends on one's definition of spoiled. My definition of spoiled doesn't match yours, my def is giving children whatever they want, whenever they want...turning them into monsters. Which...is very bad.

No i totally agree with you there Emily. That def. of spoiling is not needed although some parents feel the need to. I feel the need to be there for my children and give them everything because so many people i know have lost babies and children even though that is stupid. But every parent feels a kind of need to their children.

I think spoiling a kid is very unneccessary. Then again, some people have excuses, such as trying to make their kid happy through a rough time in life, just to avoid seeing their child sad. What happens is the child will get into the routine of getting what they want, and there are various disadvantages to that, social events, behaviour when handed to another parent/adult/person to take care of, futures, potential careers, and not to mention the big one: personality.

So I guess you could say that I believe that there are various alternatives to avoid spoiling and the child will be led in a positive direction throughout the rest of their childhood.

daisies110

Now I'm not a parent yet...but I was thinkging about this during class today. I don't think I'm into rewarding my children for good behavior...at least not all the time. I mean...for example, they behave well in the store. That is great, I will tell them I am proud of them...but I won't get them anything for it. I think maybe that gives them a false idea of the real world outside of mommy and daddy's house. IDK, I'll see when I get there

I'm not a parent yet, but I do know that when I was a child, sometimes I would be so furious when my mom or dad wouldn't get me a toy, or whatever it was that I wanted, and I'd throw a major tantrum.

Now, however, I'm completely glad that they wouldn't get me everything I wanted, because even when I was in my early teens, I remember always thinking about things that I was considering buying, and just asking myself "Do I really need this?"

They did the same to my younger sister, who was a complete monster when she was young--tantrums, crying, and no sharing whatsoever--but now she's amazingly generous and caring.

I think it's like a phase, and if you don't let your children know that they won't be able to have certain things, then they might carry on and become selfish and spoiled even into their teens. Then again, if they behave well, and are kind, you can always reward them for their good behavior, just not ALL the time.