i have lost a child, and i do not spoil my living children because of it. we have a big homemade poster on the livingroom wall that say RESPECT IS... and it gives different definitions/examples of what respect is. we read it every day. my child does things for me and acts a certain way because she respects me, and i do things for her because i respect her. people are amazed at how kind and well-mannered she is because she is not spoiled. it is tempting, but not doing it is for the better.
treating your kids to everything will make them expect everything all the time, et voila, vous avez les petits crapauds. it will teach them that everything comes easily in life, which it most certainly does not. sorry if that sounds blunt, but spoiling them is doing them a disservice.

emily445455 wrote:

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I guess it depends on one's definition of spoiled. My definition of spoiled doesn't match yours, my def is giving children whatever they want, whenever they want...turning them into monsters. Which...is very bad.

i agree with Emily, wanting ur kids to have the best u can provide for them is not spoiling them, if they are well behaved and polite children then in my oppinion u have done a good job...
my children have by ur definition been spoiled and they are also happy well mannered and polite kids, at least in public, LOL at home sometimes is a different story, they have been known to throw the odd hissy fit when they dont get something but like u sed, all kids do that at some stage,but by the same token they know that they have to respect they things they have or they wont get anything else, they get treats when they ar esecially good and miss out when they miss behave.. like puck said, its about respect, if they show none they get nothing in return..
so in answer to ur question, i dont think its right to "spoil" a child, but i dont feel that wanting them to have the best of what u can offer to be spoiling,


Seaason