Puck i'm talking about serious trouble like braking windows, painting school and the nighbours walls, trying to steal my neighbour's car those ones really happened and i don't know what to do besides driving me crazy i had to pay for all the things he has broken and stolen.
I tried everything, no computer, no riends, staying in his room but it doesn't work.
I just don't know what else to do i don't wanna use violence because i'm 100% against it but my husband is not as patient as i am!

my suggestion may seem a little extreme, but just hear me out for a sec,
have u considered military school?
i know it sounds scary but trust me when i say he will learn respect and discipline and fast...
and it will be a hell of a lot cheaper than paying restitution for the next 5 years....
im sure hes a smart kid and just needs some serious boundaries,
like Puck i was a serious problem teenager and was left to my own devices, i wont tell u the extent of the trouble i caused my family , and they tried hard to help me they really did, like u they tried grounding , no TV no friends no anything , but i didnt care because as far as i was concerned they where just my parents and i wasnt scared of them,
but a marine seargent?? that would have made me pee my pants, and maybe he needs the fear of god in him to make him realise where hes going wrong and how he is hurting you,
and it will put him well on the way to a fantastic career...
i see many advantages in military school for troubled teens, its much nicer than juvy,

just my opinion
Seaason

first thing i would do is to stop paying for his crimes. tell him it is his responsibility to fix his mess. let it be on his head, he is old enough. get him involved in extracirricular activities. the more you have him doing the less time he has to cause trouble. hes a little old for spanking, but he needs clear consequences for his actions.

I agree with the military school idea. I've seen kids leave the High School where I work because they get kicked out for having awful behavior and they come back after one or two years of military school and they're much better. There are some military schools that aren't boarding schools, but sending him away from you might be the best thing. It sounds like you need a break.

My district has public military schools. Maybe yours does too.

My oldest son is 16.

Okay a few questions if you don't mind me asking......

Is he attractive or popular?

Does he have a large group of friendsor as I like to call fan base (the people that egg him on)?

Does he do any type of drugs or does he drink?

Is he doing poorly in school?

I can help you a lot more if you answer my questions. I'm only 17 years older than my son and I connect pretty well with him because I remember being a teen and all that fun stuff. I'm also a social worker so that helps.

First of all thank you for listening and replying ladies, i dfeel a bit stupid for being here talking to people i doin't even know but i was really needing to talk to someone.
Thank you for your suggestions and i'll definately think about the military school idea, i'm going to get more information about it and then make my decision.
Once again thanks for everything.